Tuesday, March 25, 2008

It's Over

There's really nothing else to say.


I knew that. I was cramping all day yesterday. I POAS this morning, as V mentioned. I needed to be prepared for the confirming call or pleasantly surprised. I totally understand what he's saying but for me, I needed to know in advance.

I'll call and book a follow up appointment with our doctor to see what he thinks of everything, and see what we do next.


Dtrini said...

We are reality TV junkies and our favourite show is The Amazing Race. So, with all due respect to my loving wife, I take this opportunity to request a change in this post's titling. It's not "over" but rather we have hit another "roadblock". It's a small positive spin on a sad day but she has taught me in ten years of being together that thinking positively can accomplish many miracles. Our being together is proof of that concept. We are lucky to have another day to try and try we will. Keep reading our continuing adventures and THANK YOU, everyone, for your continued support.

Mrs. Shoes said...

I am so very sorry. You are both in my thoughts.

Unknown said...

So sorry to hear Pam. I have been thinking good thoughts for you and feel so very sad for you. Keep positive, I know that's not easy, but listen to Victor and you will cross this roadblock !

Drowned Girl said...

I'm so sorry


Kami said...

I'm sorry too. I wish there was something more I could say.

Anonymous said...

Not much to say but you have our love and support.
We were really hoping this would be the time.

Aurelia said...

I'm so sorry guys, this really does feel awful I know.

Hey, Patti mentioned buying you a margarita? I'd love to as well, if you can stand seeing me, or I can just send some virtual love and hugs.

(And---maybe some DHEA? Maybe worth trying while you save up for another cycle? It can't hurt, and at minimum, it made my hair look abfab!)

daisy said...

This news breaks my heart. I am so sorry. My love to you both.

Summer said...

I'm so sorry.

wizdom said...

argh (note: I just wrote the below for the second time $%#%#&^%$ vista!)

sorry, here goes pt deux

I agree and I agree

I agree 1 - the name of the post must be changed... darling SIL you have taught me in many ways that one does not throw in the towel at the first (or second) sign of trouble, so I respecftfull reject your towel and kindly ask that you pick it up. You are family kiddo and one thing that our family doesn't do is throw in the towel until we are damn well ready too. you are both loving and caring people and the joy you seek will find its way into your life one wayor the other, so please be patient... it will come... so pick 'er up, and let's git 'er done! - c'est cool ?!?!?

and I agree 2 - as much as I love and respect you big bro, I side with SIL and the rest when I say if she wants to pee on a stick, pee girl pee.

do I get your POV, yes sir I do, but coming from someon who has recently taken his fari share of tests, if I could do something at home that would allow me to know results (accurate or inaccurate) I would in a heart beat. believe me when I say I understand the black and white of it all, but at the same time you are adding logic and reason to something of the heart... DON'T

This is where grasshopper teaches wise man on the hill... if SIL wants to pee on a stick, hold the stick and pray with her. I am saying this here, because I think you may think twice before explaining the 50 ways I may be worng about it, but truly, look around at the comments, bite your lip and hold the SJ stick!

ps you can not understand and vehemently oppose at the same time :P (I don't want to hear it, just hold the stick buddy!)

I love you both, WE love you both, and would rip of an appendage for you if it would help, we will pray and send even more good vibes... joy will find its way.

wizdom said...

ps - we love you

SassyCupcakes said...

I'm so sorry.

Mums_the_word said...

I'm so sorry :( That just plain sucks. (((hug)))

Dtrini said...

Thank you. Everyone. It's been a hard day but it has been comforting reading your words of concern, love, support and well wishes. We will recover from this stumble and we will trudge forward with continued resolve. You will see no towels around us just yet. :) It means a great deal to Pam and I that you have taken the time to post your support here (and to call). We'll be back at it in full measure in a couple of days. Much love and much appreciated.


Anonymous said...

I can't think of the words to express how I feel - except - I'm so sorry.


Gil said...

Dammit. Oh Dammit all. Pam, V, I am so very sorry to hear this news; I was hoping all weekend for you. I was keeping my fingers crossed, even at brunch the other morning! I would have loved to jump for joy with you both, but know that like the others who've posted, I am thinking about you and sending good wishes your way.

RE: POAS before beta... I understand both your points of view, of course. Yes, it's good to be prepared, but then again, sometimes not knowing can be easier too. None of this is easy though is it? *hugs*

Sending much love to you both. I vote for that margarita in April sometime. Maybe we can push up some sort of gathering so we can all indulge a little.

thrice said...

P & D- I'm so sorry.

And Pam, I would always POAS and even recommend it too. I just don't want you to beat yourself up over it. I don't think there is a right way POAS vs don't POAS, everyone is different and everyone ticks differently. Again, I wished it turned out differently.


Anonymous said...

I am so sorry. I was really hoping for the both of you.

m said...

Aw dammit guys!! That sucks. I just read this post today. I'm so sorry. We are in the same boat - regrouping for a few days, then trying to suss out where to go next. Thinking of you both.