Why is it that some people try so hard to have a baby and can't, yet others manage to do so without really trying?
Who really cares that Brit*ney Spea*rs has managed to get knocked up again? Granted she's 20 something and her husband probably is so excited to be married to her that he can't keep is pants on. But come on, pregnant again???
Then there are the Duggars. They are a religious family who have, as of October, 2005, 16 children ranging in age from newborn to 17. And they are planning on having more!!!
And finally, what about the British couple who are expecting a baby? She's 63 and he's 61. Apparently she was "perfect" for the treatment. How many people who have gone through IVF, and were well within the "acceptable" age that many clinics will perform IVF, were told that they were perfect, or conditions were excellent for success yet have had failure after failure? Yet this couple were lucky enough to have one embryo transferred and be successful on their first attempt.
Now I'm not going to say that any of these people are not deserving. (Maybe Brittany should grow up a bit first before having anymore, but I digress.) But for those of us who have been trying to have children, it can be someowhat discouraging to read about these families. Who am I to say that the Duggars shouldn't have any more kids. And who should say whether or not 63 is too old to have a child. I'm 45. Some would say I'm too old. After all, when I'm 65, my future child would be graduating high school. Does that make me too old? None of us can say it's right or wrong. Some would argue that nature didn't intend women in their 60s to have children. My initial reaction when I first heard the story was to say that it's wrong. But in retrospect, and after reading the articles and seeing the news stories, I've decided that I can't say it's wrong. I don't know that I would go through the process at 65 but I will at 45.
Some would say, why not adopt if you want a child so badly. That's not such a simple question. In Ontario, there are more adoptive parents than there are infants and toddlers. Although one is likely to be able to adopt an infant from overseas, International adoption is very expensive. In fact, it's more expensive than the route V. and I are currently taking. This is not to say we are against adoption, it's just not where we are right now.
Sorry it's been a somewhat rambling post.